One topic men shy away from is longer sex. Now, that is a very broad statement, so allow me to go into detail.
Men enjoy sex, a lot. And, they enjoy ejaculating either at the same time, or relatively close to the same time, as their partner does. However, sometimes that’s not possible due to the inevitable premature ejaculation.
I know, guys, you don’t like hearing or seeing the terms premature and ejaculation together. I also know why you don’t like seeing them together: it may make the woman feel disappointed or frustrated. And the last thing you want to do after you ejaculate is say, ‘I’m sorry,’ even though you may feel bad for not being able to last longer than 5 minutes.
But you have to know: Premature ejaculation is very common. You are not the only one experiencing this, and your lady is not the only one suffering from it. Every man experiences this unpleasant action at one time or another during their life.
Now, even though knowing you’re not alone in this may be comforting, it doesn’t just make the issue disappear. You may still feel inadequate in the bedroom. But, that’s what I’m here for; I’m here to help you overcome premature ejaculation, and not by thinking of a different subject entirely, like who won the Playoff game last night (because who wants to be thinking about sports in the middle of sex?).
So, here goes: Your Guide to Getting Rid of Premature Ejaculation
Work Out More
Men will start to hate it, but hey, it’s worth it: do some Kegels.
Those PC muscles have to be worked out, and worked out good for that matter. Once you learn how to work these muscles out the right way, try tightening them and holding the exercise in place for ten seconds. Do this as many times as you can, up to ten times.
It may feel painful at first; As a matter of fact, it may cause the same feeling as the following: When you go to the bathroom, but then hold in your urine. Then you let a little more urine out, but then you hold it in again. That contraction of those pelvic muscles is exactly what it feels like to workout your PC muscles.
But, on the bright side, exercises that workout these muscles help with ejaculation, and give you the upper hand on controlling when you do ejaculate. A plus to these exercises is that they can be done any time, any place.
Relax on the Thrusting
You do not have to thrust and thrust and thrust; chill out with that. Going slow is more enjoyable for the two of you, and it makes for a better orgasm.
But I get it, thrusting ensures that your penis will go deeper inside of her. That’s not always the way to get a girl to orgasm guys. Actually, massaging the outer areas of her vaginal opening and sticking your penis about one inch into her vagina will get her feeling horny in no time. Going deeper does not always get the job done.
This doesn’t mean you have to get rid of the act of thrusting in general; You can still thrust. But, make sure the both of you are having a good time, and remember, thrusting is more of a guy thing than a girl thing. Women actually wouldn’t mind if minimal thrusting was incorporated into sex.
Yes, the cliché of masturbating before sex is still a suggestion given to many men. If you masturbate beforehand, chances are it will take longer for you to ejaculate during sex.
But, what does masturbating have to do with premature ejaculation?
I’ll tell you. If you train yourself to delay ejaculation during masturbating, you’ll get the hang of delaying ejaculation during sex. It’s called edging, and it allows you to practice until you can avoid premature ejaculation altogether. In other words, it allows you to teach yourself control in the bedroom, yet it’s outside of the bedroom; It also provides the potential for avoidance of future disappointing and frustrating moments.
If you feel yourself about to orgasm, stop! Get out of her and squeeze below the head of your penis. Be sure to put a lot of pressure on the urethra, too.
This process allows the sexual tension to go away for a few moments while drawing some blood away from the penis. Then, go right back inside of her and continue until the both of you feel ultimate pleasure.
Allow Her to Experience It First
When you feel like you’re about to orgasm, chill out and relax for a little bit. Help your woman out in the meantime. Stimulate her clitoris with your fingers, tongue, the tip of your penis, or a sex toy. I mean technically you could use more than one to get her going quicker.
Plus, if you allow her to orgasm first, you won’t feel as pressured to last too long, and you’ll be able to enjoy your own pleasure time. It’s the best of both worlds.
Use a Condom
Some men may not like to hear this, but put a condom on. Premature ejaculation can be stopped easily by just putting a rubber on. I mean technically you should be using one anyways, but that’s besides the point.
You can even experiment and purchase condoms that act as a desensitizer. There are plenty of them at the local drug store that will get the two of you feeling a ton of pleasure in no time.
Some men have gone as far as to try aesthetic wipes, and they’ve even claimed to have worked. The ingredients within such wipes tend to help when it comes to premature ejaculation, and they’re cheap enough to buy a pack and try it out.
Plus, the ingredients within them are not harmful to the penis. But, be careful if you’re not using a condom; The ingredients in the wipes may cause irritation or numbness to the vagina. So technically, this is just a last resort type method.